Hard Core Evidence

In my bout of "re"reading books on my shelf, I've come across a book I remember to be one of the best. "BEYOND POSITIVE THINKING" by Dr. Robert Anthony. It's been fun going through these old books I've had stored, because I get reminded of all the valuable lessons I've learned along the way.

While I was reading last night, the book speaks of self esteem and self worth. The evidence is in the results. Basically, take a look around you. What kind of house do you live in? What kind of car do you drive? What kind of clothes do you wear? How much money is in your bank account? What kind of career are you pursuing? All these are RESULTS of the way we feel about ourselves. Ding ding ding! Wake up call!

That was pretty eye opening in and of itself, but I think the biggest trigger for me was this quote:

"The fact is that you will always associate with people you feel worthy of being with." ~ Dr. Robert Anthony

Okay, now there's a doozey. Of course we have the control of what we choose to drive, live in and even wear. How many times have we really stopped to ponder the fact that who we associate with is an even greater image of who we are?

Remember growing up, how our parents always wanted to make sure we were "hanging out" with good kids? They would pester me constantly about who my friends were and what they did for fun and who their parents were. At the time I was simply annoyed by their parental "control", but now I realize how valuable that piece of parenting has been for me. Of course everything our parents do for us is valuable only AFTER we grow up, right? ;o)

Think about who you spend your days with? Are they the SAME people over and over each and every day? Are they wealthy people with entrepreneurial thinking or are they broke people living on credit cards? The way we feel about ourselves is demonstrated by the people we choose to associate with daily. Do you feel "worthy" enough to hand around wealthy business owners or do you feel more comfortable with your drunk buddies at the bar?

If your associations aren't what you want your life to reflect, then you either help change your friends (by helping them grow as individuals), but seeing how we don't have the power to make people do anything they don't want to do, most of the times we have to change our friends. Not as in a disposable commodity, but as in a life saving measure that can help you out of your rut.

Look around yourself today. Look at every part of your life. Determine what you REALLY feel about yourself based on the circumstances and things you've attracted into your life. If you see results with which you are unhappy, then start to picture yourself in the situation you want to be in. Consistently hold to that image in your mind, and by nature of the law of attraction, it must come to you. You are the only one who can grow your life, it's up to you if you want to make that change.

TO GROWTH!

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Wake Up Call to Being Human

Hope your weekend was great! I had a blast with friends and family. On Saturday I wrote an entry on complaining. Or rather, that one should NOT complain. Guess what I did not even 5 hours later? Yep, you got it...I complained!!

Dunt du du dahhhh! (That was horror music, by the way). I did, the positivity blog author herself. I was having a picnic with some friends, we all began to play a game, and I found something I didn't like. My poor husband couldn't do anything right. He would tell me some of the rules of the game and I just thought he was picking on me. Needless to say, I was having a miserable time (no one else was, though).

So, I went to the bathroom ~ you've gotta love modern times when there is a toilet and running water in the middle of a park!~ and I just had a reality check with myself. The conversation basically went, "Grow up!" and the other part of me began to listen. My thoughts transferred to the stuff I'd written not too long before and I realized that I had to take all that was happening from a different vantage point. When I let myself go back, and look from the outside in, I realized I was the only one causing myself this unhappiness.

Nothing I was upset about really merited upsettings (know what I mean?). So instead I decided to take a deep breath and try to forget my self-pitying for a minute and clear my mind to open up to the flow of good energy. Did it all go away immediately? Uhh, no. It took a while, in fact, I had to work hard for about an hour to act like I was happy. But, alas, soon after that first hour swayed into the wind, I was feeling much better.

On the car ride home, my hubby is asking me to help him understand what I was so bunched up about so that he doesn't do that again. I guess I was really crappy to deal with, huh? I basically told him that I was sorry for whining, and that it was nothing. Because really it was nothing. There was no life threatening circumstance that would require me to retell, therefore re-live, the emotions I put my soul through. So I didn't. I resisted venting. I didn't go into much detail about all that was wrong with the world during that crazy afternoon. Simply, I just let it go.

Guess what? I'm okay! I lived through it. So, don't fret if you're human and you make mistakes and slip into modes of self pity and worry and low energy. Just remind yourself to pick up the pieces and tell yourself you are strong enough to get over it. There will be plenty of these times in your life, but the key is to keep moving forward. That is why we read, and self improve. Not because we are automatically "fixed" or "improved" or "better" right away, but it is because we implant thoughts into our head that help us grow as individuals each time these circumstances hit us. One step at a time is much better than taking a seat and being in everyone else's way.

KEEP MOVING FORWARD!

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It's MY Life So It's MINE to Make

Sugarland's "Settlin'" is one of the best songs on this message. Have you heard it? If not, get your ears on this video and listen to the lyrics. Tired of shootin' too low? Time to stop Settlin' for anything less than everything, dontcha think?

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