REALITY SHOW

Okay, okay, okay...so we want to grow and develop as humans inhabiting this earth for goodly purposes, right? Yeah, okay, so what about T.V.? Is television really something we should nix from our lives in order to keep our head on straight?

I have conflicting thoughts on this and personally would like clarity once and for all. The truth is, that TV really is addicting. You get to know characters in your favorite shows and your schedule seems to revolve around what's going on in the life of so and so on a stranded island or in a hospital. Sounds kinda silly when you view it that way. But let's go a little passed that world. Let's talk about the kind of shows that have no plot, no actors, and really no point...yeah, you got it: REALITY SHOWS.

What is up with our fascination with reality shows? All day long we actually live in "reality" so to speak. We get to wake up, face our day and relive it one sunup to sundown at a time. Why then, do we loooove to turn on a glass box and watch someone else's reality? Now don't get me wrong. I love a good show just like anyone else. But why? What is it really that is drawing us to them? Is our reality not good enough? Whether we are watching people dancing or just living in a house together, we are missing something that apparently we are getting from those people.

In our mission to grow to new heights and accomplish new things we need to see options. We need to know what at all might even be available so that our mind may conceive something similar for which to reach. Do we find that through these shows? Or do we actually begin to loose our vision from them?

When we watch shows that are scripted, at least we follow a storyline. We follow a plot and our mind stays focused on what the end result will be. Although it's not much, it still is some activity and gets our wheels turning. When we watch shows that just follow people's lives, we just suck ourselves up in other people's drama. Hello? Do we not have enough of our own? From dating to weight loss, we watch people go through their dilemmas. It's not like we are learning ways to overcome our obstacles, because since these reality shows are set up in such non real world fashion, it would be almost impossible to come up with their same results!

Biggest Loser? Do you have 12 hours a day to work out, have a trainer by your side constantly and a chef making you ONLY healthy and proportionate meals? Are you an eligible bachelorette with thirty men at your footstep to pick off, one by one, until you find your perfect match? Yeah, didn't think so! So in "reality" all we do by watching these shows is add more coffee room office drama to our lives and have someone else to talk about.

Extraordinary people talk about ideas; average people talk about events; and small minded people talk about other people.

So am I saying cut out the reality TV? Well, that probably would be a healthy choice. But no, who am I to say what you should or shouldn't do. If you are going to watch stuff like that, though, be careful not to let it consume your conversation. What you talk about expands in your life, and frankly who cares that you get more reality show in your life? What matters is that you expand YOUR OWN reality, right?

There's my two cents for the day! ON TO YOUR SUCCESS!

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Too Much of a Good Thing?

So here's a question for you: Is it possible to "Self Improve" to excess? I mean, really? There are some incredible resources out there for us to grow and develop ourselves daily. There are PLENTY of these resources. In fact, no one in one single life time could possibly get through each and every item available today, let alone all the other stuff coming out on a daily basis. You have everything from books, magazines, videos, interviews, seminars, etc. Can someone, then, who really loves this stuff, get too much of it?

I know people who self improve. Some more than others. Some feel the need to grow for themselves and other feel the need to "push" their newfound ideas on others. Some change their systems on a weekly basis due to new findings. Some do nothing differently at all. Of course, there are a select few, who actually study what they read, and apply what matters most to them, and you can see positive changes in their lives because of it.

So where is the line drawn? How much self improving can one do, before it really is just doing no good? Before the movie "BEYOND the Secret" (Basically a follow up to "The Secret" that helps you understand how you can actually implement the Law of Attraction into your life) came out, they had a panel discussion with some of the guests on the movie. Leeza Gibbons was the MC at the event and she preluded the evening with identifying several types of people who are interested in this kind of material.

She called one type of people "Secret Freaks." She tried to cover it up as an endearing term of people who are 'fans' of the Law of Attraction and view the teachers as celebrities of sorts. It dawned on me, that she might not be too far off.

I know when I pick up a Self Improvement book, I love it. I eat it up. Everything about the book usually gets me in an emotional and intellectual kind of 'high', but then, many many many a times, I put the book away and continue living my life as if I hadn't read a thing. Sometimes, I make changes, and I guess those are the times it counts.

Quite a few of the people in my life read self improvement material on a constant basis. Some of them can have a full day's worth of a conversation with you on the subject, and afterwords you would feel as if you've met an expert in that field. However, you look at their life and you would be hard pressed to take anything they say with any credibility.

Sometimes I wonder if simply reading and watching the stuff out there gives people that high that gets them excited about the stuff, and they pick up another book just to feel that way again. Not really changing much, but wanting to, keeping that hope alive.

I guess you could be doing too much self improving if all you are doing is self improving. If you don't take action on the material you learn, then really you aren't moving in any direction at all. We all know, 'when you are stagnant, you are dying.' I think this can happen whether you read two books a year or two hundred. The purpose is to act, to move, to really change from the inside out.

Even though this is one of our challenges as human beings, taking it one step at a time is all we need to do. Change a little bit, day by day, and then look at your life over the course of a year. You don't have to conquer the world this weekend, that will come in due time. Continue to self improve, but put a little bit of action behind each word you take in, and that is how we'll truly experience the goals we set out for ourselves.

In the meantime...DREAM BIG!

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What is the Thing You Speak of?

Whenever I use my facebook account, I usually like to post quotes of successful people. There are usually a handful of people who comment on them (and a lot of times, those comments are meant as sarcasm).

However, when I post a question such as "What is your favorite movie of all time?" it seems everyone comes out of the woodwork and puts their two cents in.

Why is that?

Why is it that on serious subjects, such that may even have the potential to help you think in a new direction, many people either don't know what to say, or don't feel like saying anything? Why is it that when you comment about superficial, everyday activities (i.e.; 'I'm feeling blah today...', 'I've got so much to do today', or the infamous, 'It's party time tonight') that people feel comfortable contributing?

Is it because we as a society find it hard to accept the ability to rise above mediocre thinking? Is it because the effort of commenting on an activity such as movie going or partying is much easier? Or is it simply because we don't talk enough about changing and growing as we do about the drama in the latest tabloid magazine?

Don't get me wrong! I love movies, I love drama, I love having fun. I also want to change, and to grow. Finding the balance is what it is all about. We'll probably die trying to find that balance, too. In the meantime, it would be nice to see more people being concerned with their mental growth as much as they're concerned with the latest actress' boyfriend's sister's uncle's babysitter. You know?

The good/bad news is that we cannot change anyone. There is nothing we can do about what others are thinking about, we can only do something about what we're thinking about. That is great news because, again, it puts us in control. For that, we should always be grateful!

TO YOUR GROWTH!

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